Showing posts with label goodness. Show all posts
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Monday, February 15, 2021

the charm offensive

We've all done it. We've all done it, knowingly or not; with the best, or the worst, of intentions. (As the aphorism puts it, "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions.") We've all done what? We've wrapped ourselves in munificent intentions as a cloak of armor against giving or receiving harm. You've gone on The Charm Offensive, haven't you? Be more specific, you say. "Give us some examples we can remember, that we can take to the metaphorical moral bank, the one that kept open our bankrupt accounts in the hope the tide would turn," the populace proclaims.

The Charm Offensive.

The Charm Offensive wears a multitude of disguises, a whole wardrobe of masquerades projecting delight or fright. 

Such as what?

The compliment that distracts from a slight. The gift that's not a gift at all but a barter for something in return. A bouquet of penance or regret. The trinket of triumph over trouble, a trouble you inflicted. A totem of praise that diverts from the scars in the skin you carved. The ancient and venerable talisman that is in reality fake-shiny and store-bought, on sale. A poem that is a paean to their virtue or their pain (words you borrowed, copied, or rephrased without guile or shame). The fragrance of forgiveness, perfectly blended with its perfectly prescribed olfactory vocabulary. A portrait of her/him/them for the ages, commissioned by you and painted by a new generation of the Old Masters. An anthem of solidarity and compassion that you can hum--to yourself--on a starless, sleepness night in the small hours.

Yes, you know full well The Charm Offensive that serves as a juggernaut before which all negativity throws itself in abandon under the wheels of killing kindness, the juggernaut festooned with hibiscus and roses pulled by ropes gripped by all the devotees of your wounds, unstoppable as it cascades downward.

Is this what Planet Harm wants or needs?


Sunday, November 25, 2007

Illuminati


I was privileged to attend a farewell celebration today for Father Joseph Bergin, a quick-to-smile neighbor who is retiring after 47 years as a priest. I can't claim to know him very well or for very long. I don't even belong to his parish, St. Mark the Evangelist, although the church is a mainstay of our neighborhood.

But I wanted to be there because, well, Father Joe is someone whose gentle kindness simply brims over. He is someone who makes you feel better just being around him; someone who remembers your name; someone who accepts you as you are. It's hard to articulate. Perhaps you are blessed to know someone like that. Perhaps you are such a person.

Originally from Ireland, he is an Episcopal priest whose travels have taken him to England, Ireland, Trinidad, Newfoundland, and Syracuse, New York. He is erudite but unassuming; witty but subtle; pious but not unctuous.


He spoke today of the God of surprises.

He related finding God in ways and places he had never expected to or wanted to, saying he has found the zigzag search rewarding. He even related a year of darkness and anger and loss of faith.

I wrote a haiku for him:

November snowmelt
sunlight shards cascading warmth
Love interwoven

Then, after a festive lunch tinged with sadness, I took my "evening" walk in the afternoon.

Lambent light.

Cloudless sky.

Pastel leaves. Skeleton branches.

Perfect.

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